Saturday, March 10, 2012

To see something beautiful

This is to the few, The ones on random days who walk up and tell me i'm beautiful for absolutely no reason at all.   I guess i don't hear it very often, because i can tell you most of the times it has happened, who said it, and what i was doing at the time. It's not actually something many people say, at least not to me, so today as i am alone and feeling down about myself... I want to remember the ones who have said it, and try to look in the mirror and see what they see and not some crazy number on a scale.
The most resent is the one that comes first to mind. I was standing in the kitchen, cooking at usual, my hair in a mess and cornstarch smudged across my cheek. My mother, who was standing in the living room stops moving for several seconds and just stares at me. When i meet her eyes she starts moving again, smiles and tells me, "i was just thinking how beautiful you are."
Another time puzzles me. i have no idea what brought it on, or if what Angie said was what she meant, but its complete randomness made my day. I was standing by the doorway to Becky's office waiting for her to finish something she was doing so i could ask her a question. Angie was sitting in the office as well, and for some reason , out of the blue she says "you're Beautiful." what? it threw me for a loop. i was wearing my work clothes, probably covered in flour with my hair scrunched up in a hair net. i didn't know her very well at the time, so imagine my feeling. i probably had a look on my face like something had just dropped on my head. in a way something was... if i remember right, i got so flustered that i forgot my question entirely and went back to what i was doing.
The week before the incident with my mother i went to Price to see a psychologist to re-evaluate my mental illness. Needless to say i wasn't feeling to happy about myself that day. We were going through the regular questions; how do you feel about this? what makes you feel that way? ect... and then he asked how i felt about myself. i answered truthfully, "I like myself, but i don't like my waist." He paused a moment then responded, "i can't see why you wouldn't, you're beautiful." and then we moved on. I didn't think much of it at the time, as it is usually a psychologists job to help you feel good about yourself, so it could be a less than honest opinion, but i would like to think that it was sincere.
The first time i remember being told i was beatiful and it actually meant more than a passing phrase was back in middle school. i had had a rough day and was heading back home on the school bus. My best friend at the time, Justin, was sitting on the seat next to me as usual, but i wasn't talking. someone, i don't remember who, had been making fun of me and i felt ugly. He asked what was wrong and after a long silence i told him. he looked me up and down then said, "i don't think you're ugly. You're one of the most beautiful girls i know." i blushed, and i don't think we talked the rest of the way home, in fact i don't think we ever mentioned the conversation again, but it stuck with me. and in a time of my life when i needed it most his words would come back like a hug, and it helped, to know that somewhere out there there was someone who thought i was beautiful.

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